3 things that complaining will do for you

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Complaining seems pretty harmless most of the time. The fact is, it’s not harmless. It can derail what you are meant to do. Let me explain a few things complaining can (and will) do for you.

1. It will make you feel like you’ve done something about the problem – We only have a certain amount of energy to apply to a problem. When you complain about a problem, you’ve done nothing really to correct it, you’ve only complained about it.

When I hired my first coach, she told me to sign a “complaint free contract” for this very reason. I don’t complain a lot, but since I read and signed her contract, I did take notice every time I was tempted. If you will “refrain from complaining”, even for a short amount of time (say a week) you will notice that you will apply that precious energy to actually correcting the problem. Try it.

2. It will place your happiness in someone elses hands – Always complaining about a problem takes ALL the responsibility off of you… and onto someone else. Next time you are tempted to complain about something, ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do to make this better?” I’m not saying be a martyr and take the blame for every little thing, but I think that we should take some responsibility for our own destiny. I mean, who’s responsibility IS it to solve OUR problems? (Before you say it… I’m sure our heavenly father would be proud if we took a little action every now and then.)

3. It makes you focus on what’s NOT working – Every time you complain, you are giving your precious attention to something negative. Why not “think on whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” Phil 4:8

Bonus: I know I said 3 things, but I can’t stop…One other thing complaining does for you? It attracts other complainers. Is that what you want?

I’m just sayin’. :-)

Kevin

3 things that I’ve already learned from my 3-week-old daughter

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It’s amazing how much there is about being a parent. Just when you think you have a grip on things, something changes.

At 4 am this morning (her 2nd “midnight” feeding) I was thinking of how I could apply what I’m learning to the rest of my life… and possibly yours too.

So, in the last three weeks, here are just 3 things I’ve learned from Kaelyn.

1. You tend to become who you hang out with – For the last 3 weeks, I’ve been hanging out with a little person who only wants to eat and sleep (and poop their pants, although I haven’t succumbed to that temptation yet) :-) . Seriously though, if you hang out with people who are satisfied with playing video games and watching Jerry Springer all day, then it’s just a matter of time before you become the same way. On the other hand, if you want to start a business, or buy an airplane, you’d better be looking for those kinds of people to hang with. They will encourage on the days when your dream seems so far away.

2. Be thankful for the small victories – It’s a great feeling when I “figure out” that Kaelyn has a wet diaper or she’s hungry and I knew what to do about it. It will also be nice to be able to sleep for more than 3 hours at a time too (but I don’t want to wish these days away either!).

Ever since Kaelyn has been here, I want to follow my dreams even more. I want to travel and show her how big the world is… I want to show her how to take a BIG bite out of life… But, again, some days my “big picture” seems SO big.

I’ve always heard that gratefulness is the MOST powerful emotion there is. So while I’m still trying so hard to get to the next dream, I’m careful to be very thankful for God’s many blessings. It seems that the more I thank Him for, the more He blesses. I’m thankful for the small victories.

3. Rest well and know that God loves you – From the moment I laid eyes on Kaelyn, I was in love. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for this little punkin’. I remember thinking, “If God loves me HALF as much as I do this little one, I’m in GREAT shape” (although I know He somehow loves me more).

Now, I only covered 3 things. I know I missed some.   Please feel free to comment below and tell me what you’ve learned from YOUR (or someone’s) little one.

Thanks for reading!

Kevin

Kevin on Letterman?

Does the guy in the middle look like me?

Tim Dill sent me a picture wondering if I was holding out on him. He sent it last week sometime. In the midst of bringing Kaelyn into the world, I overlooked his email.

Does the guy in the middle look like ME? Any body know who he is?  Maybe we’re related…

:-)

Kevin

That’s my daughter-Kaelyn Sarah Ward

Hey guys. Janna and I want to say a big “Thank You” to all our friends and family who have been so excited about Kaelyn’s arrival.

Your enthusiasm has been priceless.

Here is a video that I put together from the first 2 or 3 days of Kaelyn’s life.

I dedicated the book that I wrote to her. Check it out on my website (if that’s where you are seeing this, it’s top right of my website.

My best to all of you,

Kevin, Janna and Baby Kaelyn

Some New things Happening

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Hey guys.  I just wanted to keep you in the loop with what’s happening with me.

  • I have a new book out.  You can get it for free!  I wanted to document seven of the BIGGEST pitfalls of recording your own record.  I wanted to see if I could help you to learn from my mistakes… go ahead and get it… its FREE.
  • Kaelyn Sarah Ward will be here in 3 weeks.  Excited doesn’t even begin to convey how Janna and I feel right now.
  • I will be shipping an instructional Mixing DVD in just a couple of days.  I wanted to show engineers and studio owners how I go about a mix.  If you sign up, you will get a notification as SOON as it’s available.
  • I’m working on a Podcast!  I’m most excited about this… again, more info coming soon.

Wow, I guess I have been busy.

Thank you guys for reading.  I’ll be in touch soon!

Kevin

All that matters is what you do next

Do you get overwhelmed with some huge looming task that you KNOW you need to do?  If you are like me, it’s easy to get bogged down with something that just seems too big to get done.

An example:

Change Tires on car.

Seems simple enough, so why can’t I get it done?

David Allen  in his book Getting Things Done says that a task like “Change the tires” is not actually a task. He defines a task as something that takes ONE action to complete.  Changing the tires is only ONE action if you have the car jacked up and a lugwrench in hand.

He defines this as a PROJECT.  A project consists of 2 or more “tasks”.  So in this case the PROJECT of changing the tires actually consists of these TASKS.

1.    Find Tire Shop’s number
2.    Call Tire Shop and get an appointment
3.    Take Car to car shop

Now for me, this is easier because anyone can do any of these tasks individually, but the PROJECT really doesn’t specify what to do next.

All that matters is what you do next.

Do you have something on your mind or on your list that just never seems to make it to the “done” status?

Try breaking it down into very simple steps and you’ll start to see momentum building.

Now, I do have something that you can put on your task list.  Let’s not worry about the Project for now.

  1. Go to the EmPoweryourministry site and check out the online class that Mickey Gamble and I will be teaching for 6 weeks starting on May 11.

Whether you are an industry veteran who’s rocking the blog/socialmedia world or someone who just has a passion for reaching people in the modern age, it’s worth a look.

It’s a 12 minute video that will tell you everything you need to decide if you want to make a little headway in ministry.

Please comment below if you have questions or just email me at info@empoweryourministry.com

Thank You guys for reading.

Honey, the engine has quit

Hey Everybody,

I was reading a book last week called QBQ (The Question Behind the Question) by John Miller.  In the book he told the story of a little girl and her daddy.  Her daddy was a pilot and they went out for their weekly airplane ride.

About 20 minutes into the flight, the engine quit.  The dad, in all calmness turned to his little girl-knowing that he could make her panic or give her comfort all by what he was about to say to her.

“Honey, the engine has quit and daddy is going to have to fly the plane a little bit differently.”

He then set up the plane to fly differently… changing switches, testing things until the engine came sputtering and then running without any trouble.  They landed not long after that and the little girl was able to tell her story.

I’ve noticed that the music business and ministry has been changing steadily for the past 10 or so years.  I guess you could say that our engine is sputtering and is about to quit.

My question to you is this: Are you still trying to fly it as though the engine is running the way it always has?

In my training as a pilot, the instructor always tells the student that when something happens, “FLY THE PLANE”.  You may have to compensate for the lack of an engine, but the plane has wings.  The plane will still fly.  The people who try to fly the plane as though it is still powered will stall and then crash.

Don’t lose hope in the music business and ministry.  We may never have the same kind of engine that we’ve had in the past.  FLY THE PLANE.  The new engine will be better than the old one.

EmPower Your Ministry is a great place to start to learn  to use the “new engine”

Learn more about it HERE

Economics of Abundance-Music is now FREE

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Let’s face it.  Music is Free now.  If it’s not now, it will be shortly.  There is an abundance of music and ways to get it for free.  You can go to LimeWire, FrostWire or countless other websites and download as much music as you want.

If you are a musician, and you are trying to make a living by selling CDs and soundtracks, enjoy it while you can.  The fact is, that “model” of being compensated for your time and effort is going away.

Depressed yet? Don’t be. Every time there is an abundance, a new scarcity happens.

Your CD may be free now, but your attention is more valuable than ever.  Your knowledge and ability to help someone with what you already do is valuable too.

What you need is a game plan.

You’ve heard the saying, “Every time a door is closed another one will open”?

I want to tell you about a door that’s opening that you may want to check out.

It’s called EmPower Your Ministry -The Course.  Mickey and I will be launching this 6-week power study course on May 11, 2010.  Click HERE to find out everything you need to know.

Also, check out this little video that my friend (hat tip Dan C.) turned me on to.

Take a few minutes to think about this and then go HERE

Have a good day, friends.

Continuing your education (Russ Lee interview-part 2)

Here’s the continuation of my short interview with Russ Lee.

We talked about the importance of “continuing education” in whatever you do.

If you don’t want to be significant or relevant anymore, sit back on your past accomplishments for too long!

Russ Lee

He went on to say that there are a thousand people ready to take your place if you are not willing to keep educating yourself.

Check out the video here.

That’s one of the things that impresses me about NewSong and Russ. These guys are good enough to just coast through and still be better than alot of people, but they don’t leave it at that. They invest a LARGE amount of time on continuing to improve what they do. It shows!

Can you share with us a few good ways keep improving what you do? We mentioned two… EmPower Your Ministry being one of them.

Trust-Can I steal it from you?

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I just finished a book called Art of the Steal by Frank W. Abagnale.

If his name sounds familiar, it’s because he was the main character of the movie Catch Me if You Can and he was played by Leonardo DiCaprio. It’s one of my favorite movies.

Anyway, in the book, Frank talks about the many ways that people steal from one another- and one story he tells is the story of a young kid who broke into a corporate computer and stole all of the sensitive personal client information.  He then contacted the major company and told them that if they would give him $100,000- he would not only give them all their sensitive information back, but also show them how he broke in and help them to fix it.

The declined his gracious offer and had him arrested.

Now, by this time, you are wondering how this has anything to do with the subject of this blog…right?

Glad you asked!

If this smart young man would have had the foresight or coaching to think about the skill level that he had and then present it in the right way, then he would have made MUCH more than the hundred grand that he asked for… he could have even their trust and then earned millions.

I think he was trying to get money and respect without gaining trust.

For example, if he would have approached the guys and said,  “Hey, I think your system has some major flaws in it and I can prove it to you.  If I can break into your computer system with in the next 2 days, would you agree to consider hiring me as a consultant to help you fix it?”

If he would have taken this approach, he could have secured not only their faulty, under-secured system, but also gained their trust– and YEARS of income for himself.

The point is, no matter what you do… singing, speaking, dentistry or auto-repair.. you have to gain trust before you can get very far.

Trust is not a right… it has to be earned somehow.  You can’t demand that someone trust you (or respect you), you have to prove that you worthy of trust.

In the Empower Your Ministry course, we can show you some effective ways to gain what you need to thrive–TRUST.

What are some of the coolest ways you have seen a business gain trust?

What are some thing YOU have done to gain trust?

I want to know.

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